A
male
age
41-50,
*nThe FriendZone
writes:I need help and fast. I'll cut to the chase with this one:Boy meets girl, they become great friends and boy soon falls in love with girl. Lots of complications including distance and an age gap but boy goes out of way to make romantic gestures to girl and be there for here and visit her. (she cant reciprocate for financial reasons etc)Over a year later, Girl becomes involved with different boy, but still remains close friend of original boy [different boy no longer discussed] Boy and Girl arrange to take a trip together (nothing not platonic discussed) but then Girl worries what her family will think (also great friends of boy) And asks boy outright if he feels more than maybe meets the eye.Boy thinks, as in the words of the song, If you love someone set them free, and doesn't want to risk any of the friendships especially with Girl; But also thinks he could possibly be throwing away the opportunity to be with Girl he adores.Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Let me tell you something about the friend zone, you don't get close to a girl by being her friend and waiting to be promoted to boyfriend status. You'll be waiting forever, it doesn't happen like that.
So all this time that you've made this effort, has she made any?? It doesn't have to be material, but more like displays of interest, emotions???
I get the sense you don't want to risk the friendship out of fear of rejection. Friendship is better than nothing, right?
Bottom line, if you think she's the one then you're going to have to go out on a limb and tell her you want more than a friendship.
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