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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid I need help. I have a boyfriend who lives with me. He and I met almost a year ago. We met on the job. He transferred from another store. When he first arrived at my store he was not very sociable and everyone thought he was gay. Perhaps it was because of the way he dressed or talked or the way he carried himself. When I talked to him I thought he was gay myself. As we started to talk he assured me has was not gay. After about 6months we moved in together and held a family dinner at my apartment. Before moving in with me he lived with with his twin brother. He didn't leave home until he was 28 and he is now 35 and has never lived on his own. During the time he and I started to date I was going through a rough time. Financially and had just ended a unhealthy on and off again relationship with my daughters' father. I felt like I turned to guy as help or a shoulder to cry on. He is kind to me. However he is a jerk to everyone else at work. Still after being in the store he is not well liked by our coworkers. Recently I had a family dinner so that my mother and close relatives can get to know him. My mom later tells me that she thinks my boyfriend is gay or bisexual. A while ago he told his brother one or twice "I haven't met the right women yet so I must be gay!" he said he was just being a smartass but you just don't say a statement like that if there is not some truth to it in some way. He is very dramatic. He always says that he hates gay people and exaggerates everything. He's obsessed over Ralph lauren. When he wreaked his car. The officer told me that he was curled in the middle of a lane on the highway crying. I'm telling the honest truth. I've never seen a man cry so much. I could have sworn that he killed someone. But everyone was fine. I told my daughter to get in the car cause he was making her nervous and upset..she's 18! I just need some advice it's killing me. Does he sound gay? I don't want to just be an experiment to him. If he's trying to figure out his sexuality.Thanks
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (29 August 2010):
try to check his laptop or his computer at work,
if you find gay porn than the possibility of him being gay would be very very high,
also finding gay dating sites is a good proof about his sexuality
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): Well it sounds as though its time for a long talk. I think he isnt being honest with you or himself...but really no one can tell you if he is gay, bi, or just curious but him. It doesnt matter if the whole world says he is or isnt what matter is what he IS.
One thing that would worry me is the fact that he isnt nice to others at work etc. I would take inventory of this relationship and ask yourself is this the man you want to be with...can you imaging yourself growing old with him? If the answer is no...then you need to make a break.
Crying isnt a crime, but curling up in the middle of the road weeping is just....odd. good luck, mal
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