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writes: My Son's father goes to South Beach each October during Carribean Fest. He goes with a few of his friends (majority married men). I am totally agianst this. Married and committed men should not be hanging out in South Beach! Even if I have total trust in him, South Beach is still not an appropriate atomoshere for married men to vacation at without their wives. Of course he disagrees with me. How can I explain my point of view to him? Please give me advice on what I can say to him to prove what he is doing is wrong. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 October 2005):
 Ask him to take you with him. If he says no then go down there yourself with some friends. Not to spy on him but to have a good time at the Fest. Maybe it's not as bad as you envision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2005): How about this? Support him in his choice of solo vacations, then bring home some travel guides to an equally sexy place you would like to go to alone with some female chums. Then do it. Sounds like you need a break anyway. Time away in a similar situation may be just the thing you need to sort things out in your head.
Best of luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2005): First of all, if one's relationship is loving, committed and strong enough, to begin with, then one has nothing to worry about. Do you really trust him, dear? It really sounds like there is some underlying trust issues with your bf and you need to really think about. But it's up to you on where your level of tolerance and trust lie. Trust isn't cut and dry. There are many layers. If you don't have confidence in your bf or if your gut is saying something is wrong, don't ignore these feelings.
If you are going to be worrying about him cheating on you while he's away..then follow my grandmothers sage advice which was: "if you have to keep a dog on a leash.. because you are afraid he may run away. Then maybe he's not worth keeping at all" Just my opinion..take care
Hugs,
Irish
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