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writes:Dear Cupid, I have this boy best friend that I love to death but not in a way that I would want a relationship. I am a very flirty girl and I joke around but everyone knows it's just my personality. My guy friend told me that he liked me and I realized that I must have been sending off the wrong signs. I explained to him how I didn't like him in the same way but I loved having him as my best friend. I started to stop flirting so much but then he got upset and said I was ignoring him and kept apologizing. I don't want him to think I like him but I also don't want him to think I'm ignoring him. How do I make him understand? I don't want to cause him pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou guys really helped! Thanks so very much! I was talking to him and tried to make it normal again and it worked!
Now we are back to being just best friends but I still respect his feeling and dont talk about my boyfriend around him! It couldnt be more perfect! Thanks so much!!
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reader, rotarosca  +, writes (21 March 2010):
Just relate the way you've always related. sometimes we over stress on the status of relationships. 'We are friends', 'we are exclusive' rather than just being ourselves and letting nature take its course. Since you've explained to him that you are friends, you should relate with him the way you've always done.
I've had a lot of female friends who have told me that they 'like me' or 'miss me'. It does not mean that i should start ignoring them. I tell them that i like them too but just as friends and still behave my usual self. Some who dont want such a relationship leave but many of my friends still remain.Saying you are friends and behaving differently is simply interpreted as you being nice but telling him to take a hike. As long as you are not in a physical relationship then you are just friends. As long as you've not committed to him, you are free to see other people. As long as he has no problem with this, then you should not be bothered.Try and respect his feelings though. No need telling him that you spent the night kissing another guy. Sometimes friendships could progress to something further and sometimes it just remain that way. Just be yourself.
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reader, answersqueen +, writes (21 March 2010):
I had this same problem with my guy best friend, he told me he liked me and asked me out so i sat down with him and said that i was really sorry but i didnt want to wreck the great friendship we have we're so good friends it wouldn't feel right and then he agreed and we are still best mates! carry on hanging around with him and even though you know its not act as if everythings normal and you still both like eachother jsut as best mates then he might realise it will be much better as friends.
Hope this helps send a follow up so i know how it goess
answerqueen xx
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