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writes:I not happy with my wife. i got married one year back. i love her very much but she is not. the starting month of after marriage we were happy. after that we stated conversation. because of recession am not get increment. i was in big problem. it was very difficulty to manage family. she is also working i never ask money form her in my difficulty situation because before marriage my mother in law told dont depend on wife you have maintain every thing. at that moment i am not interested to take loan also. one day i dont had signal money to go office and have a food also, without informing i took money form my wife pocket. the same thing i started when i was in trouble. one day she got i taking money from her pocket she didn’t ask she given complete to her mother. her mother came our home she blame me. the same thing happens some month i made some mistake because of family and office tension . i worry say before marriage my wife had good friend she was sharing all her feeling to him. but that person started to love her. he has sent sms to my wife about his love. i knew that. but at that moment she loves. that same person appeared in my life now am not in good possion she thinking i am not able to do fulfill her drams. that person motivated her. i dont think so she loves him. but i am sore he loves her. he always call her and talk hours.. now a day am not concentrating in my office i am in big sad. let me know how can i solve my problem. can i discuss with my wife or that person or her family.
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Your wife chose YOU. If her friendship with this other man makes you feel threatened, disrespected, or suspicious, find a way to gently tell her so, and ask her to cut down on her contact with him.Explain to her how you feel, and be ready to listen to her feelings with an open heart.As far as her mother is concerned, it sounds as if your mother in law has more control over your wife and marriage than is healthy. You may try bringing this up, but I wouldn't do it at the same time as you talk about her man friend. Money... Whatever happened to "what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine"?. Isn't that part of what makes a marriage a unique, special, and different sort of relationship than simply dating? If you are having a hard time making enough money, and your wife is in a better position at this time, I would say that there is no shame in discussing openly and frankly with your wife how and why you may need help with cash from time to time. So long as you are responsibly trying to better your position, there's no shame in letting her carry the financial bulk for awhile.
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