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I don't think I'm ready for sex!!

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Question - (8 November 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 8 November 2010)
A female Canada age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I'm only 14, my boyfriends 15 and has had many different girlfriends. He's not a virgin anymore. I love him, I think... :S But we've actually negotiated a day to have sex (New years eve, 2011) and I said I would because I don't want to loose him. That may have been a really bad idea because I don't think I'm ready... I don't know if I should tell him or just avoid it when it comes around.

Pleaaase help ! :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010):

if you are not ready don't do it! if he loves you then he would understand.. and if you don't know if you love him then deffinitly don't do it! it's not worth it, save yourself for someone who you love and that loves you.

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A male reader, Cerberus_Raphael Sweden +, writes (8 November 2010):

Cerberus_Raphael agony auntTell him that you are not ready. You should not lose your virginity simply because you do not wish to loose him, that would mean your entire relationship revolves around sex and that will not end well. If you mean anything to him, he will be with you even if you are not ready. If he leaves you because you refuse to have sex with him just yet, then, he would have revealed his true character and you will know that he is not someone you should give your heart to.

I hope that helps.

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A female reader, kissesatmidnight United States +, writes (8 November 2010):

hey if your not ready you should let him know! having sex is a big step in a reletionship and should be taken very seriously. if he loves you, he will understand and u guys can decide when to do it when you both know your hundred percent ready! i know im not your mom, but do remember to stay safe!!!!;) hope i helped!!!

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A male reader, Kohnal United States +, writes (8 November 2010):

Kohnal agony auntIf you don't think your ready then dont, My girl is about your age. When ever we get intimate I tell her that if I cross a line feel free to stop it I wouldn't want to cross any lines with her and lose her. If he really loves you he will have something similar and when you get into the foreplay will make sure this is what you want to do. Now I'm not saying he doesn't love you but thats just what

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010):

If your not ready, you really shouldnt. If he loves you, he'll understand. If he wants sit there and complain about you not wanting to, he isnt worth your while.

To me, Sex isnt something you plan...its not such a smart thing to do, exspecially at 14.. Sex is something that i think if its going to happen let it happen on its own.

You've already planned it, but by that date your not ready and yet you've already agreed, what are you going to do if he gets upset if you back down?

Just tell him your not ready for it and that it was a bad idea, see what happens ok.Let us know, we'll be here. Since you "think" you love him, then you reeeeally shouldnt at all.

Dont do something you might regret later.

Xoxo Good luck

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