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30-35,
*iking73
writes:i met this girl a while ago and we started texting and talking on the phone, we hung out a couple of times and i began to realize for a reason i still don't know, that she was special and different than anyone else i'd ever met. now i don't want to sound arrogant or concieted, but i don't have any trouble getting girls; most girls at my school have told me straight out to my face that they would date me without hesitation if i asked them. after i met this girl, though, i'm not even a little bit attracted to any of the others. i told her pretty much everything about how i felt, and it's not very easy for me to say that kind of stuff (i feel awkward and like a loser when i do; long story short, i don't like feeling vulnerable). i said how wierd i felt, and she said it was "sweet" and that "no guy ever said things like that to her before". i asked her out, but she said since we really didn't hang out that much, she couldn't see why i liked her so much. i don't understand why, but i would do anything to prove to her how much she means to me. the thing is, i can never get her to hang out so that she would feel comfortable to say yes (she is one of the busiest people i've ever met), and she hangs out with one of her ex boyfriends she swears is "just a friend", but i'm still uneasy, not to mention she lives a half hour away. i don't know what i'm going through or why, but i know i don't want to lose her to somebody else. i need to know what is happening to me and what i can do. please help me!
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reader, OSCARS MUMMY  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 she could feel intimidated by you, especially if you have all these other girls who fancy you perhaps shes feels you are in a different league and perhaps its too much like 'hard work' dating you - feeling she has to look good at all times and act a certain way - cool maybe. Maybe she feels she can be herself around he ex thats why she still sees him, i had a really hot looking boyfriend once and you know i just didnt feel 'worthy' next to him although it sounds really daft now! Maybe shes overwhelmed by the strength of your feelings too - okay so she knows now how you feel now maybe you could text her syaing something like 'i'm sorry if i came on too strong but i do like you and would like to spend more time with you, please give me a call/text if you would like to go out sometime' something like that - then leave it.. maybe in the end shes just not that into you??? i would text her that and leave it. She coule you know think you are trying to get her into bed?? - just a thought? .... but send her that text!
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