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26-29,
*loveyhoo
writes:Me and this girl have been best friends for about 7 years, even though we moved different schools and everything. we always kept in touch through phone and we met up a lot. i told her everything and she told me everything. we trusted each other with everything, i always gave her advice. i was always there for her. Then all of a sudden, she like ditched me, she went off with everyone else from her school. i understand that but she still doesnt find the time for me. when we do arrange to meet up she makes up excuses that she is ill or she can only go for a short amount of time. the thing is though the other people she calls her best friends don't even know half the stuff i know about her. I don't know what to do, as i still need her in my life. shall i try and forget her and go wiv my other friends then when she finally needs me she will come back and i would hav already gone. by the way i hav tried telling her this but she doesnt really get it and makes out its my fault, so really i dont know what to do :S ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): i had a similar problem when i was about 14.. i changed to my bestfriends school, id known her since we were 5 and we were like sisters, her family was actually meant to adopt me.. anyway when i started at her school all of a sudden she didnt really wanna know me.. she had gotten close with another girl over the summer while id been overseas and so she was only nice to me when no one else was around like when we played sport together but then the next day at school she'd go back to ignoring me and leaving me out.. it hurt so bad. about 6 months later another friend of ours had a party when her parents were away and the friend of mine got ridiculously drunk and trashed the house and majorly embarrassed herself.. of course being immature 14yr olds everyone cracked the shits and stopped talking to her even the girl who was her supposed new bestie.. her birthday was on the monday and i was the only person in school who would spk to her and then she realised that i actually was a good friend and we had so much history so over the next year she tried to make it up to me.. now we're 19 and i dont even think about it its all past history.. at that age theres a lot of silly girl drama... people are trying to figure out who they are and what sort of crowd they fit into best.. she already knows she has you there so probably feels like she doesnt need to make the effort right now coz she assumes you'll always be there.. i say for now just try not to worry about it, get on with your own life.. hang out with your other mates and swing her a call or msg once in a while to keep the contact but eventually she'll come round.. you dont need to waste your energy being upset about it coz its very normal for this kind of thing to happen at your age xxxx
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