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writes: I have come to this point in my life when I no longer have a dream, which scares me. I have always known whatI wanted to do, like be a model or lawyer, but now I really don't know what I want to be and this scares me. All my friends always say "you're only 14". I want to be famous, but I can't sing and I'm not a very good actress. I could model because I'm tall and pretty but I don't really want to do that. I would like to be an actress so can anyone help me with how I can get auditions or classes and modelling auditions... somewhere for me to start? Many thanx XX Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (15 May 2005):
 Hi there,Don't be worried! Adult life isn't like a live-TV broadcast, where, if you don't have your script and you fluff your lines, everyone laughs at you. You don't have to have a "master plan" for what you want to do, unless that suits you.Certainly, if you think that you'd be a great oceanographer or accountant or pastry chef, then you should keep a general idea in the back of your mind and work toward it, but - and here's a badly-kept secret - not many of us arrive at adulthood with our plans intact! At 14, I wanted to be an industrial chemist, but I never got anywhere close to that. So what? I'll admit my failing in writing, but I doubt you'll even care. Do you see my point? A person's professional ambitions only matter to that person, and if they're not achieved, no one else will even look up from their newspaper to notice. If you want to be "famous" that's as good a plan as any, but don't limit yourself to what you can see on TV. For every success under the television spotlights, there are ten thousand teary-eyed failures. You can be also famous as a thoughtful and inspired politician, or a humanitarian, or a gifted surgeon. You can live, effectively, for generations in the grateful memories of kids who regarded you as their most-beloved teacher or swimming coach. You can be a famous writer (think JK Rowling).In essence, your friends are right when they say "you're only 14". You have plenty of time to decide on, and achieve your dreams. What your friends mightn't know is that your interests and dreams will fold and change and multiply a hundred times between now and your 20s. That's the path to maturity and just about all of us go through it. My feeling is that only a rare few people really know what they want to "be" at the age of 14. I have admiration for that, but I think it's a pretty small proportion of the population.Try to enjoy being a diletantte for a while longer. No one will know!
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (15 May 2005):
I was 14 six years ago. At the time I wanted to be a comic book artist since I was a kid, and later wanted to be an ESL tutor or interpretor. Somewhere in there I wanted to be a jazz musician (I'm a geek, I admit it). I was really into my dreams. Now, I'm none of these things but I still could become any one of them. I'm only 20, I have a whole life ahead of me, and you have what I have +6 years. Why worry so much about it now? Good to be on top of things, but don't stress it too much.
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