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writes: I have a number of platonic male friends - some whom I have known for years. I don't want to cut them out of my life - most of my friends happen to be male anyway which would mean leaving me with no-one to socialize with. This is mainly because I feel more confortable in friendships with men than women. I have been open and upfront about my friendships and try to include my man with any meeting I have with a friend. He is just very unwilling to go along with this and says I should see them without him but I know this will make things even worse. I love my boyfriend very much and he loves me too and we want to get married. But lately we seem to be arguing a lot over this issue and I need to know the best way to deal with this without losing my man or turning my life upside down.He also happens to be Spanish/ Italian from South America and tells me this jealousy is part of his latin culture which makes being with someone like me a big adjustment for him.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (19 January 2006):
 I have the same problem as you, but my guy isn't latino, he's just insecure! I have loads of lad mates and he doesn't love it when I'm with them but I choose not to let it become an issue. He trusts and respects me and you need to start telling your guy to do the same!!!
You're entitled to have any friends you want and it's always very healthy to go out with friends alone, not spending all your time with your bf. I don't think taking him along everytime is a great idea, your friends maybe uncomfortable with this, if they don't know him too well.
Tell him how you feel and don't even think about stopping seeing your friends! Friends are there through thick and thin, boyfriends will always come and go. I know you hope this relationship is going to last forever but if this becomes a problem, you'll spend the rest of your life resenting him for making you lose all the other important people in your life. Good luck
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