A
female
age
41-50,
*okiogirl
writes:HelloI do not know how i got myself here but it is a bit late to complain. We didn't started as fwb, we liked each other and we made everything in our hands to be together. We travel to see each other (we live in different countries) and he seemed really into me. He was the one desperate to see me and the one freaking out if i didn't reply right away.It was clear from the beginning we can never be together and i accepted this. I know there is not a future for this relationship but we continued to see each other during the last months. I thought i could do it. Just a casual thing.I do not know why but he is no longer the same. I saw him two weeks ago and it was the best day ever. We had dinner, we laughed, we spent the night together, he was so sweet saying he misses me ... But now i feel he is keeping some distance and my insecurities and my feelings are taking the best of me. I am keeping this for myself and of course i am also playing cool but i miss him and what we used to have. I always felt special but not anymore. I feel like a booty call. I know he owe me nothing but this is not what we used to have. I do not know if he is just stepping back because we should protect us and we should not be too attached or because he is not interested. I am feeling really sad and i realize that we played with fire and i am settling for a disaster.I do not know what to do. I was planning to just never reply again and move on. Sometimes i would like to explain him how i feel but i am afraid to make a fool of myself. And when i feel really weak i just want to see him again.Thank you for your comments.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 I think you should cut the ties with this man. I know it will be hard but you have already become a FWB and nothing more because you said it yourself, that there will never be anything permanent between you. If you continue to see him it'll just be for sex. Whatever you had in the beginning, during the phase when you both thought (or fantasized) that the relationship might be more it was something different. But you have to face facts now and find someone who lives in your location so you can have all that you want from someone you meet and enjoy being with.
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