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writes:I am a mom of 3. To give you some backround we had our first at 19. I am really stuggling with my life, as i feel i do not have one. I am with my children all day, and most nights, by myself. I have friends with kids, but older ones and really am feeling lonely. I know this is probuably how it is, and i just need to accept it, but i keep wondering if i die tomorrow what have I done? I live for my family and kids. I spend my days doing the mom stuff, i just dont feel appreciated by anyone, and i feel like i am starting to resent my decisions. I feel like my husband is a great man, but he never agrees with much of what i do. He really does not like my family and friends. I am not sure if what i am living through is just a stage of life. I am sad all the time, blow up cuz i never feel heard. Is this normal? Please tell me your thoughts! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): Well, I haven't had this kind of relationship, so I wouldn't know, but if I was in your shoes, I would stand up for myself. If he cares about your children, he would do his absolute best to take care of them. If he doesn't love you or his and your children, and you don't truely love him, I think it would be best to split. Similar to the other poster before me said, marriage is about an equal share of care for each other and whatever is created between the two of you. If you care more than he does, the foundation of your marriage and your relationship crumbles. I'm sorry if I didn't help you but that's the way I see it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): My thoughts are that you are unhappy, your guy is not loving you and respecting you, you seem to be the sole parent rearing the kids and your mate does nothing to help you with the burden of keeping the homely duties from wearing you out.
It is high time you asserted yourself and stood up for your self.
You need to tell that dictator husband of yours that you are sick and tired of being sick-and-tired. You want him to take up some of the duties of keeping the home clean and looking after the three kids. You want him to stop treating you and your family and friends as though they were mere acquaintances. You want him to start respecting and loving you and making time for date nights and holidays from the daily grind. You want him to take an equal share in the marriage as, eventually, if this is not done, the state of the union will destabilize and self-destruct.
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