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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex boyfriend and I broke up in November and he immediately got a new girlfriend (turns out he slept with her then dumped me). The reason he gave me for breaking up with me was because he wanted to start doing drugs again and since I didn't do that sort of thing he wanted a girl who would (just FYI, had he started using again I would have dumped him anyway, but I digress). I should also tell you that we shared the same group of friends. My two best girlfriends barely, if even, talk to me anymore and do EVERYTHING under the sun with this new girl. A very very very large part of me does not want to be even remotely friendly to them anymore, but we've all had a long friendship and I know most don't want to give that up. And I'm also not sure of what to do about my ex because he's trying to stay friends with me and I really don't want that, but I don't want to lose the other friends we share. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Continue hanging out with your friends. Simply ignore him. He's useless so just treat him for the waste that he is. You know like crumbs, lint or dirt. Don't bother your mind with him. There's just too many more appealing boys out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): I think the best thing for you is to cut all of them out of your life for good. Your x is a cheater and does drugs. Your friends chose him and the new gf over you- this shows a lack of loyalty and low self esteem.
It's possible you may be able to keep some of the other friends in the group in a casual way at some future point, but if they're all drug users I wouldn't bother.
I'm sorry you're in this situation, take care.
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