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writes:hi my husband has been gone for two months in a program for people that violate there parole just the other night i slipped up and cheated on him he will be getting out tuesday iwant to tell him my question is what should i do
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (25 May 2012):
Tell him if you want to hurt him and probably break up. If you don't tell him he may not find out but if he does he will be hurt and may break up.
Theres nothing good we can tell you about what you did. Maybe you cheated because you really want to break up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): Lies are not generally the best course of action. They will ALWAYS come out eventually. It might take years, but that will only make it hurt more.You cannot have a relationship, not a healthy one at any rate, with a lie, especially that kind, at it's core.You screwed up. Did you think, when you were CHOOSING doing the deed (no one forced you), that there weren't going to be consequences.Infidelity, if it is merely once, does not have to be a death knell for a relationship. In fact it can show you, head on, what your weaknesses are and working together you can overcome them and love a good, loving life as a couple. But if you lie... all it will do it eat at you, and eat at you, until he does something that pisses you off (something that is probably not in the same league as infidelity) and out of anger and spite you blurt out what you did and it destroys any chance you have of salvaging a damned thing.No. Tell him the truth, of what happened, how it happened, and of how it makes you feel now, of how sorry you are that you failed to live up to the vow you made when you married... and then leave the decision about whether the relationship survive... up to him. It's no longer your choice that matters. It's his.I truly hope it works for you... but you need to learn there are consequences to the things you do and the worse the crime the harsher the punishment for it.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): Tell him the truth and then go get tested for diseases.
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