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writes:I am a 15 year old guy, and I am a pleasure addict, I like to ''play with my self.''I dont know why but I look up porno on the internet and masturbate, I do it like 5 times a day or less, I just stay at home and do it in my bathroom or my room, I've been doing it for a while and I dont know how to controll my self.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Im the same way except im 12 it will probibly die down in a wile because i think yours and my hormones are crazy and theres nothing we can do about it the only thing i can suggest is clean your hands before eating anything or leving your room.
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reader, cranberry +, writes (13 May 2008):
Masturbation is natural, healthy and fun. But, after a while, it can also ruin REAL sex once you are having it.
There are many men who have trouble having orgasms with REAL women because they become conditioned to respond only to images of women on a screen. And one type of porn may be interesting at first, but then you see something a bit more extreme and that's more exciting. You begin to search out more extreme and unusual porn to masturbate to until you are watching some seriously depraved stuff. That's all fine, because it's only fantasy, right? But then you find yourself fantasizing about these things when you are with real women and you can't actually be in the experience that you are having because you are all in your head. Pretty soon you want her to DO the things that you thing about -- and she might do it and she might not -- but nothing is ever the same as sitting and looking at porn and doing it to yourself. Real sex becomes much less satisfying than being alone with your fantasies. And that is a lonely life. It will alienate any woman you are sexually involved with.
Another thing, as you begin to use masturbation as a way of relaxing or dealing with upsets, you become physiologically used to it. Your body will crave masturbation every time you are upset or lonely or angry or feeling rejected -- or whatever. The more you do it, the more you become addicted to the chemicals released during orgasm to get you through troubles and negative feelings. This is sex addiction and it ruins peoples lives. Google it.
This is pretty much the path that you are on if you continue as you are. Now, I have to say, I am a big fan of masturbation, but not in the extreme, not with porn every time and not as a way of coping with your problems. At your age, once or twice a day is normal and maybe a day here and there that you do it more...but skip the porn at least half the time and do not ever let it get out of control. I am older than you and I have known many men who hate what compulsive masturbation has done to them, their sex life and their relationships. Just be aware of what can happen and watch yourself.
Take care!
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reader, bubbles93 +, writes (13 May 2008):
 masturbation doesnt hurt anybody its just a harmful pleasure for oneself 5 times a day is not that bad but try something else your a teenager go hangout with your friends go to the movies do something that will take your mind off it
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reader, FinnMcCool  +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Why do you think you should control yourself? You're harming no-one - certainly not yourself so my advice - tug away!!!
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reader, hannah76 + ♥, writes (13 May 2008):
There are a lot of masturbation questions today!! You are young though so enjoy your pleasure! H.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Nothing wrong with masturbating.
But if you are totally self-absorbed as you describe, then quite simply you need to get out more.
Sex is a powerful force, and it's good. It's not so good when it is all that interests you to the exclusion of everything else.
I'm not telling you that five times a day is too much. I'm only saying that you need to have other interests as well, and if masturbation is taking up all your time and filling your thoughts, then it's time to get out and about and to discover there's more to life than that.
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