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writes:I'm in a confusing situation. A 21 year old guy has been texting me and we hung out once (I am 18). I feel like I could possibly like him, but I don't know. It's like my mind won't let me like him, because I am hung up on a married man. This guy (30) is everything I want. The only problem is he is unattainable. I tried to move on, but I can't! When I think he's gone, somehow he pops back into my life. I just want to like other people, but I can't. In the back of my mind, I always think he may be single one day, marriages don't last forever these days. What should I do?
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reader, sweetaei +, writes (16 November 2010):
God, I'm in a similar situation. I found my ex after 8 yrs and am still madly in love with him. Of course, he's now married. I fancy waiting for his unhappy marriage to end (isn't that horrible!?), so he can come back to me.
I've even thought not to date anyone else just in case he gets divorced...ugh! What a horrible feeling, stuck to someone you can't have.
I'm sorry that you are going through this...me, too...I don't know what to do....but I know what I can't do (can't be with him, can't sleep with him, can't tell him how I feel...)
I'm not the best advice giver, but I hope it helps to know you aren't the only one who feels this way.
(Then again, would u really want a man who is texting another woman behind his wife's back? He'll do the same to you...)
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reader, BunnyAce +, writes (16 November 2010):
 A lot of things are left out of this, does he have children? How long has he been married? Has he been divorced before? I say that this is a bad situation that you should not get into. You are 18 and have your whole life ahead of you, don't let this one guy keep you off the market. What will be will be. You should experience different people. If he is your 'one and only' and you think you are meant to be together, maybe it will happen later down the road. But let me tell you this, if you don't experience your teenage/early twenties now, you are going to wonder forever what you missed out on, which causes a bad marriage. Worst comes to worst, you experience what's out there, don't like it, and then truly realize that you're meant to be with this guy. Then you can wait for him to divorce, but something to keep in mind: would you want to have a guy divorce some woman his age, date you and then perhaps do the same thing to you when you get older?
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