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male
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36-40,
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writes:i have this great woman who i have asked to marry me (she said yes). There is just a small problem, she really wants me to climax while she gives me oral sex, I can get right to the edge of no return but cant go over the egde. I have seen a a question like mine on here but the problem is all the advice i have tried. The relaxation thing works but its like my penis is super sensitive and eventually I feel like I have to jolt. its really annoying, i can control the urge for a little while but it gets too much at some point. i really dont want to make the love of my life feel like a failiure or anything. any ideas?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (16 June 2009):
 Use hands first. hers on it and your on her hand, that way you set how tight the grip is and the tempo when you get close ask her to just work the tip with her mouth ( no moving no hands mind you). That should do the trick.
Not every male climax from blow jobs. Just like not every female climax from insertion.
You are going to have to tell her sooner or later.
Be open and honest, that way the two of you can explore things you never thought the other one would like.
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reader, Crux +, writes (16 June 2009):
I would tell her that while you enjoy it, there are certain sex positions that don't work for everyone, oral sex included. That doesn't mean she's bad at it or that you don't enjoy it, just that it doesn't get you over the top. For example, my wife enjoys me being on top of her, but she usually doesn't climax that way. When we switch to her on top, that's a whole different story. I would just reassure her that you do enjoy it and want her to continue doing it, but you need different stimulation to finish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): My bf has the same problem!! I have learnt that he really enjoys it but he won't come that way. Just explain to her and I am sure she will understand. I give him oral sex and then when he feels ready we either have sex after or I give him a hand job to finish. It's not a prob for us anymore. Just talk to her. Good luck xx
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