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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend has a lot of different friends some I like some I don't but that is kind of normal - after all they are his friends - but a couple of them in particular have been very rude about me and yet my boyfriend continues to be friends with them, and never had it out with them about what they said. I have let this go for now and stayed clear of them despite being disappointed with my boyfriends seeming lack of care for my feelings.However, I overheard my boyfriend on the phone to one of these friends, who incidentally has a history of beating his wife up (another reason I avoid him) and my boyfriend, although in a joking voice, said "hey slot badger' in greeting him. I know this is a slang term for peodophile and its prob a joke but I actually feel really sick that my boyfriend even finds the subject funny. He also makes regular reference to gays not being normal I don't know whether I'm being too sensitive but I cannot understand why my boyfriend spends time with these kind of people and its making me question his personality and my personality being compatible.Am I being overly sensitive? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 No, you're not being too sensitive. Anyone (your bf) who spends time with a man like the one you describe, and who speaks ill of gays, and victims of pedophiles, is not worth keeping as a boyfriend......but you're starting to discover that for yourself.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Who your friends are says something about you and if his friends are not respectful of you I think you are right to be concerned. Also if he is not a tolerant person ie gay people etc you may well question if you are like minded. It is important to share similar values in the long run. I don't think you are being too sensitive. As a couple it helps to have a similar outlook on life, so you may need to talk to him about this.
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