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writes: My girlfriend (for a year) and me were making love and I call her by my ex's name (they're names sound similar)by mistake. She flips out saying I'm still thinking of her sexually (I do think of her but only as a friend and nothing else.) She started crying and I couldn't say a thing she ran out the room.Her ex-boyfriend did this to her but it was her best friend who he cheated with. I call her a few times with no answer and I even went her place (once). She her roomate answer it saying she didnt want see to me. I would never even think of cheating on her. The thought cross mind. What do I do?
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reader, rolfen  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 She is overreacting because of her past and it's not your fault and you don't have to go through this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy girlfriend called me saying she wants see me. we talked for a bit. I said that I was sorry. we work it out. any ideas for me avoiding saying the wrong name cause we almost broke up?
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reader, fluffyshoes  +, writes (29 October 2008):
It is difficult for her at the moment as she has had this happen before with the result that someone was cheating on her so you must try and understand it wil take her some time to seperate the two different events.
What was a simple slip of the tounge has hurt her feelings even though you never meant to. She will need a lot of patience and reassurance from you to get through this, if you are to stay together.
Maybe if she does not want to see you give her some space but you could write her a letter explaining how you feel and why you understand about how what happened made her feel. Let her know you have no intention of being with anyone else. Then give her time to work out how she feels and let her know you are there for her when she is ready to talk about it.
Small mistakes can wake up huge emotions in someone so give her time but let her know you care and you would never intentionally hurt her.
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