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*oiwan
writes:my ex boyfriend and i seemingly broke off 2days ago and it has been wrecking for me. the issue is, that he seems to be gettin on fairly well he has even moved in with his female friends/flatmates who will definately be having girls come over for sleep over and parties and maybe meet my ex and fall in love. he lives right accross the road. i can not move out of my apartment coz it is most convinient for me. i am still in love with him and keep crying myself ever since with bottles of wine and emotional and phsycial pain... how can i stand the thought that he seems ok and i will definately be meeting him holding hands with his new gal. we broke up in a very strange way.. one minute we were laughing and kissing and hugging the next minute we are having a difference over an opinion which was not in anyway aggressive and the next thing is that we are all packig our staff and leaving.. ok we have had some similar issues in the past but i thought we were getting over them as we even have had worst issues which we got over and never talked about for a very long time and made considerable changes on both oursides... how come i don want to see him move on then. he seems very okay even though i pretend to be ok when i'm out of the house... hw do i move past seeing him with anatha woman coz he is also the type that women flock! kindly advice :-(
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reader, Goiwan +, writes (3 August 2008):
Goiwan is verified as being by the original poster of the question oh jackie69, i tried not thinking him with another woman, but yesterday he turned up for a function which i attended with another woman.... there's not a difference btn laughing and crying to me now.... anyway i'm glad it happened. my friend prayed that it happened that way so that i can move on knowing evidently that he has and now i'm left with no choice but move on... gud thing is that he is no longer going to hurt me any more. i don even have to avoid him anymore.... i'll be polite when we meet randomly by saying hi back even though he saw me at the function and ignored me hah! thanks ya'l for ur advice
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reader, Goiwan +, writes (2 August 2008):
Goiwan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno. the break up was not mutual, it was so fast and we jus stoped talking to each other... yesterday we met randomly at uni and we said hi hi and went on our seperate ways.he sent me a text telling me that he owed me a final conversation.. since i had decided to try accept and move on, i told him that he did not owe me anything and that i wished both of us peace in our hearts. he then shifted the blame on me by saying i'm the one who broke it off and that the texts i sent seeking confirmation of wether we were broken up or not, had not reached him until later (3days)(seems like lies).since he never replied my text, i assumed we broke up.now he is blaming me... i don know if its just a girmic so that i feel guilty for the rest of my life... or that he just doesn't want me to move on even though its clear that he is moving on... why doesn't he want me to move on like him/?why does he want to see me hurting ?
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reader, jackie69  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 I've recently split with my boyfrined.
he dumped me for no reason but is still in my life daily and now texts and tells me how attractive i am but that he cant be in a "relationship".
It hurts so much because he lives close by and i have to see him everyday.
there is still a huge attraction between the 2 of us cus we cant keep our eyes off eachother when in the company of one another.
It is very difficult but i make myself keep a distance from him because i dont want to get hurt any further.
I would just be polite and speak if u see him and wait and see whether he realises what he has lost.
Try not to think about him with another woman because i dont think he would so soon after finishing with you. xx
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