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writes:Over a year ago I ended a relationship with a woman I was deeply in love with. Now I kinda regret splitting up with her as I still love her.The reason we split up was because she told me she was pregnant which I was so happy about, But later it came to light that she had lied about being pregnant. I couldn't trust her after that so I walked away.Do you guys think I was right to walk away after I found out she wasn't pregnant or should I have forgave her and moved on...... Did I indeed make the right decision???. Please help!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): I think lying about something like that is quite a big deal, so I can understand you feeling that you couldn't trust her. As for regretting ending the relationship, you did what felt right at the time. I am wondering though, did you ever talk about why she lied about being pregnant? Did she explain why she told you that? If she explained but it still didn't feel right to you, then I think you did the right thing by walking away. If you didn't speak to one another about it though, then I can understand you wondering if you did the right thing.
It is a difficult one though. Is she now with someone else, do you know? If you really cannot rest and would like some answers, maybe you could try and find her and speak to her. But if that is not possible, then as hard as it may be it might be better to just let it go and carry on with your life. You did what was right for you at that time. We cannot always go back to change things. In those situations, we have to just accept how things turned out, trust it is for the best, and carry on.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 It depends on why she thought it okay to lie to you about something like that. It was wrong for her to do so but depending on her motives, I suppose it's understandable.
If she thought she had to lie to you so that you'd stay with her, tell her she was wrong, you would have stayed with her anyway.
If she lied to you because she wanted support of some kind, then it was unforgivable, tell her that she could have asked.
If her lies stem from some other doubts, then you still have to talk to her about it.
You walked away because you were angry. You still love her for a reason, perhaps you know why she did it? You are right to be untrusting right now but still, act with peace, act with love and understanding and soon, all answers will reveal themselves.
I hope that helps.
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