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writes:[Moderator's Note: OP's own title]I am 13. So is my boyfriend.. I am about 8 months older. And he asked me to make out with him. And I said no, I personally think its gross. And he answered, "Why?"To me tongues are NASTY. "I will make you try it!" "No you wont" "yes" "NO!" "Please Try It""not until I am ready" "when will that be?" "I don't know" "I'm gonna make you!" He thinks its all a joke! Please what should I do? I am scared he will become abusive. OR Rape me.. Maybe I am overreacting? I don't know. I told my mom, and she just said "UGH! Did he start that now?" She doesn't know the whole story. Because I don't want to get anything dramatic done before I know, that it is coming.. Or something.. Please help.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): I think this is an important situation - and I am glad you are taking it seriously. Too often girls feel pressurised into sex, too early, and it leaves emotional scars. You need to once again make your feelings very clear and tell him that you want him to stop pressurising you and that if he continues you no longer want to see him. He sounds borderline abusive to me - but because you are both young it is difficult to tell whether he knows what he is doing or just playing. Either way YOU don't feel comfortable so it is important you stand your ground.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 The next time he starts talking like that just say "Stop" in a loud firm voice. People read your body language and if you appear timid or scared, the wrong type of people pick up on that and will try to bully you into things. You are the boss of you. He cant tell you what to do. So next time he tries just tell him to stop. And explain you will not be kissing because you arent interested. If he doesnt respect your wishes, that means he doesnt respect you. And you dont want to be around someone like that. So give him one more chance to behave and if he still wont respect you and you feel threatened, then dump him. Hes not very nice and hes just trying to use you if he doesnt care what you think. A real boyfriend will respect what you say and listen to you. And he will make you feel safe and happy. He wont make you feel nervous like this lad does. So tell him straight and if he wont listen then dont go out with him.
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