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writes:My bf and I been together for 2 and 1/2 years. Our relaionshop had been like a roller coaster. Our last crazy fight was about a month ago. We haven't had any more disagreement since, but we are in a long distance relationship and we've always manage to make it back into the relationship and try to work our differences. My question is: He wants me to move in with him and I want to move too, but How do I know if things are not going to go bad again. It's been only a month. I am not sure whether to move in or not. I am not sure how much he wants me? how do i know he loves me? He had not propose to me, and how do i know i have a future together. I am afraid that if I move in with him we'll never get marry... like they said: Why buy the cow if you got the milk for free...I need some male replies.. I don't know how to approach to this situation. When I was younger I made the mistake to move in with a guy and it all end it, so badly. I am afraid that it would happen again. Then again, I don't want to pressure my bf to marry me either...But how long do I have to wait?How do I tell him?
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (4 September 2007):
 I know you wanted to hear the male advise, however, I did want to voice you are correct. I wanted to share with you that living together can be nothing but that...just living together unless there is a REAL committment - marriage. I lived with a man for several yrs-6 and we never married...we actually split up...and you know how that is much easier since your not married, right? It's easier to just throw in the towel. And in my opinion, it's easier for the male to throw it in...things are not like they "used" to be 20, 30 or even 40 years ago. Times have changed. Now, it's all about living together, no true committment in that, and when either is done, there done....next!I am happy that you are thinking about this before actually considering. Very wise and very smart. Good luck with YOUR choice...that is what this is all about.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (4 September 2007):
 You took the words right out of my mouth. And milk is getting more expensive every day.
I am not your avarage male so I must go on what I have seen others do in these cases.
When I see this situation and a woman moves in with the guy, usually the payment for the cow goes out the window.
See, I bought the cow before I knew what milk was like and that is actually supposed to be the way it works.
Most guys figure they will take what they can get from a relationship before it falls apart. They don't even consider the fact that it was meant to be "Till death do us part."
Most guys, and even a fair amount of gals now figure if they can live together then maybe they can marry and change the words to "Till death, or we get tired of one another, do us part."
I guess what I am saying is it would probably not be wise to move in with him unless you like fighting and not marrying and like dissapointments.
I don't like being the bearer of bad news but the statistics tell the story. Sorry. Doc.
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