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writes:dearcupid,i'm married for 5 years now, and we have a 7 months old child.but my husband and i always quarrels because of her ex girlfriend and her 2nd cousin too.I get angry everytime i discover something , lastly i discover he has a sim card for that girl use only.but before that we always get quarrels and i always forgive him. but ive notice he keeps on doing it.they have a communication without my knowing.He always lie on me even in a small things and the only reason he has is that he dont want us to get quarrels he dont do whatever doubts that i have on him.i dont know what to do now, please help me.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (13 September 2011):
 Hi,
Your husband is a liar, and he won't change. He said he lies because he doesn't want to have problems with you? That's just an excuse. He knows that you don't approve him being in contact with his ex, 2nd cousin, but he still does?
You are not happy, and you cannot live this way for the rest of your life. You need to talk to him, explain how you feel, that lying is not the solution to your problems. He needs to change, and start being honest with you. You need to be able to trust him again.
You know, people lie, people make mistakes, but they change if they are really willing to work on the marriage. So, give your husband a chance, I hope he understands you, and listen to you.
Good luck
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