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writes:When I married my husband, he knew that my elderly mother lived with me and that I had responsibilities to her. Now he wants her to get out. He acts rude and hateful to her all the time. It makes me hate him sometimes. I don't know why he just can't suck it up for a while longer. Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, mrs.smith81608 +, writes (10 May 2009):
I'd hit the roof and I'd definitely have a strong discussion with him. If he can't respect your mother, and that fact that she lives with you, there are definitely issues you two need to meet with upon. If it were me, I'd tell him to start respecting my mother as he would his own or he could find somewhere else to live because you only have one mother, and if she needs you or your help that you are going to be there. Not to mention he's being selfish even asking you to get her out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): I would feel so hurt and so angry if my husband acted that way toward my elderly parents. She is in her last years and after all the years of her taking care of you, you are finally getting to serve her and take care of her when she really needs someone.
You seem like the sort of person who has either not said anything to him about this, or who has discussed it with him but have been nice about it. I could be wrong. But the way i would handle this was to very strictly say to my husband how important she is to me and how much she needs me and i need to be here for her and she has made sacrifice after sacrifice for me and this is the least i can do and it is unacceptable for him to act this way with her. That he is being rude, arrogant, disrespectful, nasty, mean, and small hearted and i will simply not tolerate it. If he loves me and wants to maintain a good relationship with me, he will understand what's important to me and support it. And then i would probably cry because of his behaviour toward my poor mother and hopefuly get the point across.
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