A
female
age
41-50,
*esohyesitsjess
writes:I feel that my husband doesn't want to be with me because I don't understand him at all. We fight a lot. But I do love him with all my heart but I want him to treat all his children the same but he doesn't he loves his first daughter the most and he favours his first born when his 8 month old daughter needs him. Like I said he doesn't live with with his first two children so he is raising his first two children. But he is rasing our daughter with me. But we don't matter to him. We come last in his life. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, yesohyesitsjess +, writes (26 January 2009):
yesohyesitsjess is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy husban has two kids that he is not rasing and he favours his first child a lot and we got married almost a year ago and we don't matter to how so not one picture of his new daughter and she is almost a year old. He has pictures on his cell. But god forbid that something happened to she would have nothing of his like his other children do.
A
female
reader, yesohyesitsjess +, writes (26 January 2009):
yesohyesitsjess is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy husband has two kids that he is not raising and he favours his first child a lot and we got married almost a year ago and we don't matter to how so not one picture of his new daughter and she is almost a year old. He has pictures on his cell. But god forbid that something happened to she would have nothing of his like his other children do.
...............................
A
male
reader, PeterPan +, writes (25 January 2009):
 Putting on my lay-psychoanalyst hat for a minute, I'm wondering if he's not acting out of guilt at not being there for his first set of kids. You implied that they are living elsewhere? ...with their mother or other guardian? Is it possible that the guilt he feels about not being around to raise them has forced him to look at their needs more than yours and your baby daughter's?
I'm not completely sure what to suggest except that your husband needs to come to grips with whatever it was (a divorce perhaps) that caused the physical separation and learn how to integrate all his children into his life. I'm sure you can't do this for him. What you can do is try to get into his head a little deeper. Are you fights a smokescreen for other problems in his life?
Just something to consider.
...............................
|
