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writes:Hello then boys! iv got a burning question for you..........Ever been in one of those awful scenarios, when you meet a girl and really like her, but then, after a few dates and rendez vu's, she turns possessive, demanding, and all-so-loved up with you that you want to run a mile out of range, because your so scared those three terrifying words are going to spill from her mouth within that first month, like bullets popping out of a rifle????Well, im sure , theres a few who have. And for those who have been in this scenario, will also know how dissapointing this can be when , before all the talks of solid commitment and 'i want your babies', that came far too soon into the relationship, you actually did like the girl. But there is answer, because belive it or not, some of the men, that i discuss about in this topic, are doing two major things wrong from the beginning, especially with younger men and women. One major thing that will always turn your potential girlfriend into this loved up possessive freak, is simple, and can so easily be avoided..................sex too soon!Yes , no matter how many times, youve herd it before! But most of you never listen! Anyone can say to you, that sex is ok after one week, one fortnight, one month, is sooooo wrong its unbelivable! for a start , it can take over 3 or 4 weeks for the STD results to come back with an answer! I truly belive that if when you like someone, and dont have sex straight away(within the first two months minimum)that you genuinly get to know a girl, without those strings being attatched, because men can have sex and feel nothing, whereas women have sex and feel everything! It makes them emotionally attatched to you. And thats the last thing thats going to stop her becoming all of the above. Instead , dating, and meeting casually and wining and dining your girl, will prove much a better option. This will also allow you both to respect one another.The second major disaster area for you guys is, when you tell her, your all i think about, i want you for the rest of my life, your the most beautiful girl in the world and no one compares to you, all within that first month!Again, this complicates it even futher, because your saying things that should only be said in a very serious relationship. Im not saying you shouldnt compliment her, what im saying is dont go overboard on the first few dates because you had one too many JD's and coke and its making you feel all lovey dovey towards a girl you barely know! It is honestly all about the connection that slowly builds over those first two months. And more importantly youll find , that she only ever goes , what appears to be, over the top, when you do! Put simply, if you play it casual, you will find she does too!
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reader, indian.boy65  +, writes (4 August 2009):
 Yes... U are bang on. Why didn't I get this earlier!! This has helped me diagnose my problems too..
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