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writes:I have been seeing this guy for a few months now. We were introduced through friends and hit it off right away - I'm absolutely crazy about him and he treats me like a princess. But when I introduced him to my family and some of my other close friends, everyone thought he was gay. He does have some feminine qualities - he enjoys cooking, Frank Sinatra, music and theater, high fashion and the like. He's not very masculine looking (and has a higher pitch voice), but that certainly doesn't bother me. He really treats me well - he brings me flowers every weekend, has cooked romantic dinners for me, sings for me, plans fantastic dates. He's very hand-hold-ey and kissey in public, but when we're alone he hasn't tried to be sexual with me at all. And he said "I love you" about a month into the relationship and is trying to make the relationship move very quickly in an emotional sense. I'm just worried that everyone is right about him being gay. He is an investment banker, so I know having a "trophy girlfriend" is certainly beneficial to him in his career. I just want to know how to discover if he really is homosexual before I become more emotionally attached to him and this relationship. My family and friends think my boyfriend is gay
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (7 July 2008):
 I would worry less about what other people are saying and follow your own instincts on this. I don't think just because a guy likes Sinatra, music, theatre, and has a high pitched voice means anything. I would be more worried about what you were saying about him telling you he loved you so early on and pushing the relationship. I think if after a few months and you are still having doubts about the relationship, you should listen to them and talk with him about it.
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reader, Emilysanswers  + ♥, writes (7 July 2008):
Ask him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 i don't think someones hobbies or appearance make them gay. i mean i study theatre and so a lot of the men in my class have stereotypically gay interests, but its just that- a stereotype. now its always possible he's gay but i think you're reading to much into it. but the sexual side of it is a worry, you should talk to him to find out why he doesn't try anything, it might just be that he doesn't want to rush you
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