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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:A little background, I am 29 and I am quite shy (Already gotten better over the years, but still ways to go. Pushing myself to go to a dance class is considered one of my recent "achievement"). I have never been in a real relationship in the past. Only some fruitless attempts with girls that I met online (not even online dating, just girls I met in online games). Needless to say, I have no idea how the real dating works.So I am interested in a girl in the dance class, but I am not sure what I should do. She seems to be the quiet type. We have danced a few times, but haven't been able to get much of a conversation going beside "how are you" (partly because we have to focus on the steps). She tend to leave fairly quickly after the class. Should I try to approach her at the end of the class and ask her for her email? (I always feel intimidated talking on the phone at the start and end up having nothing to say, so email seemed a better option for me.) How should I say it without being too intrusive? or should I just ask her to go somewhere directly? If so what kind of places/activities are recommended?Thanks in advance.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (19 July 2012):
 I would ask her if she might want to get a coffee or tea after class sometime, or go to a casual place for lunch or dinner. You could also ask for her email. On your first time out I would not ask her to go get drinks as that is sometimes a turn-off for women. Or, maybe there is some dance or art event she would enjoy attending with you. If she is shy, she may be hesitant, but don't necessarily take this as a sign that she is not interested. If she is like you and never been on a date before, she may not be sure about it. Then again, she could jump at the chance! It just depends on the individual. Just be polite and a gentleman to ask her your questions. I think at the end of dance class would be fine. Let us know how it goes!
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