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writes:Can I ask for your opinions; I have never really felt attracted to anyone like ever until about last year when I met this guy, we get on well, but he doesn't want a girlfriend and I don't do one-offs, we had a conversation where he asked when we were going to get together for you know what and I said I have told you, I don't do one-offs, his reply was it doesn't have to be a one-off it can be as many times as I want, how should I take this? Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): The answer to "How should I take this comment?" is simple; you shouldn't! Get him out of your life and don't even think about changing him...you will only get hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): that was his way of saying "who said i only want to have sex with you once? Because i was thinking i would call you over a good 10 or 15 times for sex and then blow you off when i get tired of it."
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reader, djmanny64 +, writes (9 May 2009):
Well it sounds to me that he just wants to use you for one thing and one thing only. Don't get trapped into these kind of situations. My mate is the same he goes out and pulls birds and then does not see them ever again and the girls get upset because he has used them.If he says that he doesn't want a girlfriend but just sex then look the other way. He just wants you as a f**k buddy in other words. If your looking for a relationship and he is not then go out and look for a nice girl who won't use you.Hope all goes well. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): It seems to me that this is just another form of: "I'm not a one night stand type of woman" to which he replies "We could do it again tomorrow!" Maybe I'm wrong. What is clear is the fact this playful way with words is an advantage for a man - he can be interpreted in more than one way and in case his intention behind all that gargle was not one of a serious relationship, he can very well wash his hands and tell you that you saw what you wanted to see. Follow me here? In short... you rule. Want to step on firm ground, then don't hurry into these set ups. You don't have to settle for less than a committed relationship. If you wish, test the field and hold him in check until things become more clear. It's best to be cautious than get hurt.
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reader, Mrs.G +, writes (9 May 2009):
Hello,
''it doesn't have to be a one-off it can be as many times as I want''
That just means he will keep having sex with you as long as you let him but he will not make you his girlfriend. He has told you that already;
''...but he doesn't want a girlfriend''
If you do not engage in one night stands and you are uncomfortable with being intimate with him without commitment, then the best thing to do would be not to do it!
Mrs. G
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