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*laire and dan
writes:how do i no if my boyfriend is into advetureous sex toys ect.. we have not been together long so nothing o rush just he has not had much exsperience he is the only one i no is the one and its took me years to find him but how do i introduce it i dont want him to think bad of me but askin out rite and hearin and answer i dont want to could be a little embarrasing ??thank you
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reader, ConfusedDazed +, writes (3 May 2009):
 There's never a harm in asking but i agree with FinnMcCool he may think hes not pleasuring you and that you want to use toys to replace him in a sense. If your going to suggest it make sure u point out that it has nothin to do with his performance.
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reader, OtherStarfish +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Hi claire,
lol think Satin is right - but a bit too enthusiastic:) -don't think him being nervous or worried by them etc. is a good reason to dump him. (lol we were all shy stupid teenagers once...) Do talk to him...
Think he needs to be shown how they can be used to enhance a great sex life.
i would start small and go for a simple vibe and see how you get on.
or...maybe take him to a shop (like ann summers accidentally as you are going past) and drag him in and have a laugh with him then buy one for fun?
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): I suppose it's an inequal situation when you look at it.
Women have sex toys, men have masturbation/pornographic.
It's probably a natural reaction for men to be shocked, it's just the way that some men are biologically wired.
You don't have to mention it to him. We all have secrets you know, and this one is a harmless one, provided it doesn't become addictive (like food, drugs or drink can be).
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reader, satindesire  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Hey, I was right! An immature, sexually ignorant jerkoff WOULD think you're a bad person and be embarrassed by sex toys.
Score one for me!! ^_^
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (29 April 2009):
 You can look at things on the net just to get some ideas see how he reacts to this, i would imagine most guys would not have a problem with this i can't speak from experience as i have never ever used toys in the bedroom but going by the amount you see advertised they seem to be pretty popular!
Gina
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Absolute rubbish from satin - of course there is every reason to suppose he will at the very least feel embarrassed. He's gonna think that he's doing something wrong, that his performance is so lacking that you need to supplement him with toys. So why DO you so strongly feel that you need to introduce toys? He's inexperienced, seems to be quite a catch - why ruin it? Save your toys for if/ when you scare him off.
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reader, Uncle Phil + ♥, writes (29 April 2009):
 I have to confess, it was me that bought all the vibrators in this house. And the duo-balls. Wonderful pieces of equipment. When she wants more and I'm exhausted with an empty tank, there's lots more fun to be had with these delightful little (and not so little) products of man's ingenuity. I get just as much pleasure from pleasing her as she does.
Bonk his brains out first, then when he's had enough hand him a toy and show him what to do with it. Some men might be intimidated by a piece of plastic, others are glad of it when the need arises.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (29 April 2009):
Why would he think bad about you if you told him you had sex toys? Only the most immature, sexually ignorant jerkoff would think you're a bad person for having a vibrator or ten. Or twenty.
Ahem. Anyway.
You're already having sex with him I'm assuming? If you are, that's about as intimate an activity as a human being can experience. If you can't TALK to him about sex, but still actually do the deed of having sex with him, that's pretty strange. The act of sex itself is way more embarrassing than just simply talking about it, if you think about this logically.
Trust me, if he reacts poorly to you bringing up sex toys when you talk to him, you have a great reason to DUMP him. Any man who's threatened or embarrassed by sex toys doesn't deserve to have sex with you.
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