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writes:Hey ya...I am in need of some advice...I broke up with him as he had others on the side and I made contact with him a couple of weeks ago and he said he wants to be friends n need time. He hasn't contacted me so far and his b'day is coming up next week. Do u think he will contact me? How much time does a guy need when they say "I need time" to recover n get his head sorted out from the effects of our relationship ending? Is it possible to make this guy come back at all?Thanks for the answers in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): Well if you broke up with him because he had "others" I assume you mean he was cheating, then you need to stick by your guns and DUMP HIM. That means no calling him and no wanting to get back with him. By you calling him that last time, its showing him that you're still missing him and can't get over him, even after what he did to you. That probably made him lose respect for you. And you DON'T want him to think that. You gotta act like you're just fine without him.And in my experience, when a guy says, "I need time" its a nice way of saying its over. So don't expect this guy to come around anytime soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your thoughts and honest responses.I believe you are all right and need to move on ... brain n heart never agrees do they....Thanks again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): Kenny is dead right. What I find difficult to understand is why you would want him back at all. Leopards seldom change their spots you know!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008):
Hi
Probably a lifetime! sorry.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (3 August 2008):
 Im sorry but i don't think that this guy is really that interested in re-establishing contact with you. He says he needs time to get his head sorted from the relationship ending, but the reason it ended was because he had others on the side, so it was ultimately all his fault it broke up anyway. I would not try to contact him anymore, if he contacts you then fine, but i would not go chasing him. If he did come back to you could you really trust him when he tell's you his not seeing anyone else as well?.
Good luck x
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