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writes:4 months ago my boyfriend left me for my best friend! We were together for 2.5 years and I have a 20 month old son with him, whom he hasn't seen in about 3 months, he doesn't come to see him or call to check on him or pay child support for that matter, but I am constantly hoping for one day that he will come back! I know I need to let it go but I just can't seem to 1! He was my first love, my first partner, my baby dad and I thought we would be together forever. My question is how long will it take me to get over him and move on? Or for people with similar experiences, how long did it take you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): There is no set time as it depends on each person and it is bound to hurt for a while, but gradually you will feel better. To help this to happen, bring some new things into your life if you can, some interests and maybe new people. And reach out to your family and friends who will help you through it.
There must be someone better out there for you.
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reader, Janicp14  +, writes (10 November 2008):
That's really terrible what he did to you, and what your best friend did to you. Even if he does come back, I am telling you the wisest decision for you would be to NOT take him back, but perhaps still keep in touch for the sake of your child. If he did it once, ESPECIALLY after so long and after so much commitment (having a kid?!), he WILL do it again. You deserve to be treated like a queen, and you deserve someone who will care for you AND your child. I'm sure you will find a better man out there who will love your child more even though it won't be his! There is no set timing for when you get over a heartbreak - it all depends on the relationship, the people and feeling involved. Just know that it is important to surround yourself with people who love you and who will make you laugh until you find you are missing him less and less.
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (10 November 2008):
Heartbreak is a terrible thing!! - Usually, the guys hang around the women with their child - so this is quite unusual! - He may return one day - who knows - but like the other lady said if we knew a cure for heartache it would be great to know!!
Just keep your chin up - you are still very young & lots can still happen in your life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): I have your kind of experience on a much, much smaller scale. So, basically, mine was only a little thing and i'm not over it a long time later. So, to be honest, i don't know. Maybe you just need to push on through it, distracting yourself with other things? Or maybe you're the kind of person that needs to sit and cry, and then you'll be fine? Maybe only time can help? If you find out, please let the entire female population know, i think alot of people would find this useful.
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