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writes:I have fallen in love with a 16 year old girl.I love her very much.Yet I is it correct for me to think of settling down with her after say 6 years. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): You should wait until she is older, then bring it up, providing of course that she even wants to settle down with you. I know most people are not what they were like at 16 now. It's great that you are respecting her youth though. Just respect her autonomy now and allow for the fact that things and people change, and marriage might not be on the cards for her. Good luck!
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (17 March 2009):
 You live in India, where many still practice arranged marriages. If your family still practicing it, then you can start introducing her to your family/parents now so they too will begin to love her like you fell in love with her. Unfortunately, if they already have someone in mind for you, there may be nothing you can do about this girl.
If you continue to live in India, and you are able to marry her, and she returns her love to you, then why don't you ask her? She may want to go to college, have a career of her own, before she settles down to marry you - so your 6 years estimation is right on track. Or, she may wish to be a full time house-wife, and because you have a culture where extended family members can help you when you have children, she may just agree to marry you in 2-3 years time.
You know your condiitions better than us, particularly since your culture and values regarding marriage is so much different than in the west.
Congratulations in being in love!
Cat
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