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writes:Not sure if I posted this question already, because I don't see it in the approval process ..I recently broke up with my boyfriend because I found out he has a LDR (long distance relationship) with another girl. He denied it of course. But now I really miss him, he won't talk to me. I know this is a dumb question but :X. About how long, do you guys think it takes for us to talk again? In your knowledge and/or experience, about how long would you say it usually takes for the ex to call a girl after a brake up? 2/3 weeks, months? I don't know, I just can't continue like this, it really hurts that he's making ZERO effort to contact me. Or maybe he's never going to .... I don't know :( I'm sure I'm not going to.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (3 October 2011):
He may not contact you because he had already checked out. He was moving his emotions on to this LDR relationship with another girl. That is his focus .
And you should not want to be with someone that is making someone else number one.
The only way he'll contact you is if this girl dumps him now. But again - you deserve to be the first choice. The prize, not the second choice.
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reader, iloveyou123  +, writes (3 October 2011):
Just like pinktopaz said, there's no set time. However, one thing is for sure, the world works in funny ways. As soon as your mind is off HIM and on YOURSELF, he will contact you again... whether that's 2 days or 3 months, that's all up to you. You did a good job breaking up with him, so it's just a matter of time when he comes crawling back. Hopefully by then, you'll have the power to shut him out like he deserves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): He may never contact you. I mean if he really loved you, in which case he wouldn't have been cheating on you LDR, and you both merely had a tiff, then I would say give it a couple days to a week. But he was cheating, you found out broke up with him and he has made zero contact.
I know the feeling, you just want him to call you, prove you wrong, tell you he can't be without you, beg you for forgiveness, tell you and prove it was all a misunderstanding. I know how it is to want that cause I have wanted that several times. But it never came true. He may call if it doesn't work out with the other chick. Just a cop out, nothing you should get too excited over.
I'm sorry dear. Just be strong. Your dignity is more important than him. You deserve better anyway. Everything will be alright.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (3 October 2011):
There's no known answer because everyone is different. I've had ex's contact me days, weeks, and months after (as long as 4-months).
Why do you want to talk to him anyway? I know you miss him, but you caught him cheating on you. You're worth more than that and if you honestly think that the only guy you're good enough to be with is someone that cheats on you, you really need to take a look at yourself and know that you're better than that.
Stay strong. Don't call him. Get with your friends and family as much as possible. They won't make you completely forget about him, but it helps.
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