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writes:Hi, I just wanted to know how long an infatuation normally lasts. You see, I've liked this guy (by the way, he's a teacher) for four years, at first I thought it was just infatuation, but it's gone on for so long I don't know what to think anymore. I'm totally crazy about him and find it hard to think of anything else. By the way, I would never make a move on him or anything, and now that I've left school I'm trying to get over him, but it's so hard. I just need to know how long an infatuation normally lasts.Thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): Ahemmm! Yeh, I would say you made a little exaggeration in your age, Anonymous....(lol)...No prob. I supected. Crushes on teachers are normal. Oh, gosh, guys have them too! I was painfully in love with a young lady teacher when I was in jr. high. She knew, obviously, and was both very professional and very sweet about it. I never stopped loving her, but I grew up and realized she was just the "image" of the woman I would eventually meet when I was older and fall in love with.
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reader, Onlyofyou1039  +, writes (20 August 2008):
I feel the exact same way!!
I believe that I'm in love with a teacher as well. For me its only been 2 years though and it still continues on strongly. (my feelings) and it scares me to think it'll last forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thank you for your advice (by the way, I'm 16 - I made a slight mistake on my profile). The age gap is about 19 years. But I'm not going to stay in contact with him, it would be too hard.
Thank you :)
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (19 August 2008):
 Having a crush on someone? No idea, that can last ages. But if you actually get with someone the honeymoon period is usually between 18 months and 2 yrs. So they say anyway. Think of it as like having a crush on a pop star or a doctor or something. There is no way you can have them, so its best to try and fill your time with other things. It will pass in time when your older and meet someone special. My crush on Howard Jones did! (i know none of you know who i'm on about hehe)
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reader, the cat's pajamas +, writes (19 August 2008):
 It can be really hard to get over an infatuation as they can last a long time, the best way to get over it is to busy yourself. Whether it be volunteering or just chilling out with friends, try your hardest not to think about him (and i know it can be hard) but you will feel better for it.
If you really really really can't stop thinking about him no matter how much you try I agree with Friend Tom that a bit of social contact can't hurt. But it all depends on the circumstances i.e age difference.
Hope this advice helps, good luck with whatever you choose to do :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): They can last a long time, if it is based on more than just thinking a person is "hot". Was it a high school or college teacher? You say you are out of school now. So, you are an adult...at least legally. You do not mention any age difference, or whether the former teacher is single or not. That makes a big difference. If he is free, I would say there is nothing wrong with making social contact. Just don't expect more than may be possible. I am sure you are not the only student who may have had such a "feeling". Teachers are usually aware of this and have training in how to deal with it. Take care. Be cautious. Tom
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