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writes: how to deal with hurtful past incidents?How to deal with unconsciously saying hurtful things your other?How to deal with your other half when they become angry? Reply to this Question
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (30 December 2006):
 Hey,
How To Deal With Hurtful Past Incidents:
have a good, long talk to someone you trust about the whole thing. The only way to get it out of your system is to get that nagging feeling away by telling someone about how you feel now and how you felt then. Get it off your chest. Once you have released your feelings about it you can shut an imaginary door on your past and don't look back. Think about what tomorrow brings.
How To Deal With Unconsiuosly Saying Hurtful Things:
Whether this is to (or about) your other half or not, I do know exactly what you mean. Some experts in human physcology say that our dreams tell us what we really really want or feel. This does not mean if you dream of falling off a cliff you want to die, but some dreams have deep (possibly symbolic) meanings. You have to take each component that made the dream what it was and see what it relates to in your life. Arguments supply heat and fire so maybe by you saying hurtful things about (r to) your other half in your sleep means you would like more fire between you? I'm no expert on that matter but you get my drift...hopefully!
How To Deal With Your Other Half When They're Angry:
Walk away. The only things that keep an argument going is you responding to eachother and giving eachother and excuse to say something more. Calmly suggesting to talk about it sometimes helps but, as you probably can understand, when you're fuming mad the last thing you need is someone tranquil telling you to chill out. I guess it depends how angry they are and what about. Listen to yourself for the answer.
Hope this helped,
Phoebe xxXxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): The answer is simple. If you really are sorry about those hurtful things you said just let your partner speak and and let it all out. Don't try to explain just let him speak and speak. Be mature and understand that he might yell and argue, it's completely understandable, just stay calm and don't start another fight. Then akcknowledge your faults and tell him that you are sorry and that you know you did wrong. Listening and comunicating sincerely will show him how honest and serious you are about the relationship. Tell him you know you have to work out some things about your personality and that you are trying. Show interest in the way he feels and in the things he says. Ask him how you can make things better from now on. And last but not least try your best to be aware of the way you treat him so to avoid future incidents.
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