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anonymous
writes:How do you know if a man likes you? I'm not a teenager... things aren't obvious. It's a professional relationship and we are both married... but things feel odd. Good odd, you know. Guilty good odd. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): Before you decide to start something, please consider all the people you might hurt.
Too many women ruin things by jumping into bed with a man before he knows them well enough to genuinely care. Let him do the chasing. In the long run, you will be better off because you will be able to honestly say HE chased YOU. If he wants you, he will eventually let you know. Let HIM chase YOU because then he can never accuse you of ruining his present relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007): Well, it seems that anon's answer hit a nerve.....as you said you are not a teenager, you are married and so is this man married. You have a professional relationship, and things aren't obvious, but you sense some sort of attraction.....Just because you are married, it does not mean that you won't be tempted by people you are attracted to and like.
But with the commitment of marriage, you can only let those little feelings that make you feel guilty stay in your head and out of your heart....this man is not obvious because he is maintaining a professional relationship.
You should do the same, stop wondering what he is thinking about you, and then you will have nothing to feel guilty about....you still got it, let it go at that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst of all...he's not a colleague. Secondly, I'm not asking for your chastisement... as I'm not pursuing a thing...so your lovely comments aren't necessary... but thanks. But in case I do decide to sleep with him instead of just wondering out loud if he is interested in me, then I will take into consideration your comments and thus begin the guilt process.
Geez!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007): If you are both married, why are you concerned about whether or not he "likes" you? What are you looking for? Its rather telling when you state that there is some guilt associated with feeling good.
Truth is, you are asking for trouble if you pursue this line of thought. Have you told your husband about your interest? If not, why not? Because, if you can not tell your husband about this "professional friend" then you know darn well there's something "rotten in the state of Denmark" going on.
Leave it alone, if you know what's good for you - AND this colleague and his wife!
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