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writes:Hi people of Dear Cupid, I appreciate each and every one of you who take time to read this and help me out. Its not relationship problem, but I still wanted to get your thoughts and opinions. I have an odd sense of humor. I think I inherited it from my mom, because shes the same. This has always caused me problems in social situations. I say something that sounds funny in my head but then I say it out loud, and no one else finds it funny. Ive tried just not sharing my sense of humor, but then people find me boring. I cant win. Its like I have to choose between seeming weird or boring. Another thing about me is I am sensitive. I dont take insults well. Not really sure why, either because I am used to them. As well as being odd, I also look odd. Not ugly necessarily, although a lot of people have called me that. I have strong features that really stand out. I have a descent body that I keep in shape. I have long hair but right now it's kind of thin in places because I have a hormone imbalance. I am going to be receiving treatment for it soon. How can I stop caring what others think in the mean time? Sometimes I dont want to leave my house. People have made comments about my hair, and its really hurtful. I almost wish it upon them so they know how it feels. I will quit whining now. I just want opinions if you got any. If you are someone with an odd sense of humor, how do you handle situations where you have to be around other people? If you look odd, how do you stop feeling inferior to others and their comments? How do you just stop caring? I know people who say they dont care what others think. Do you think they are being truthful? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2013): I used to care a great deal about what people thought of me, then as a few years passed by... I had been hated, lied about, gossiped about, called from a pig to a rat, jumped on,stabbed in the back, kicked when i was down, hitting rock bottom and someone waits to open the trap door)I learnt that I couldnt give a monkeys red bottom arse what ANYONE thought about me (apart from me, If i can walk with no guilt or shame about my character, then it's what I think that counts). Eventually I did make friends with FAMILY AND FRIENDS,so 'other people' certainly don't matter what they think.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 September 2013):
 I have to say life did get better when I stopped caring what others thought.
Sadly for most young folks I fear it is a function of age as for me it began at about age 35... by 40 it was firmly in place and now at 53 I could give a flying fig about what others think of me.
You are correct that once you really don't care (and that day will come) life gets SO MUCH EASIER.
I wish you peace with this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2013): Hi there!
People can say or think whatever they want from you but at the end of the day, what really matters the most is how you see yourself.
You can't really please everyone.
Some people will like you, some people hates you. For no reason. Sometimes they could hate you for no apparent reason.
Even if your the most beautiful person in the world, not all people will like you for who you are or what you are.
Take it from Miley Cyrus. People had been criticizing her left and right. But did she care? Nope. She continuing doing what people finds annoying about her.
Its just a matter of believing in your self. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. If you always think of what other people think about you, you will just get paranoid.
When you don't have to. Take a deep breath, relax and enjoy life. Who cares if your jokes are not that funny. Say it anyway.as long as your not making fun of other people.
Just enjoy life and don't think too much.
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