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How do you go down on girl??

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Question - (20 May 2007) 8 Answers - (Newest, 22 April 2010)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

how do you go down on girl?? oral sex?? wots it like??

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A female reader, molson5070 United States +, writes (22 April 2010):

molson5070 agony auntBE GENTLE

First off, make sure you cut your nails as a girl's vagina has a lot of nerve endings and is sensitive. The last thing you want to do is be painful. Also, make sure you're gentle when you touch and kiss her. The biggest mistakes guys make is going too fast and rough. Most girls like it to be soft and gentle. So always err on the side of caution and go slow. If she wants you to go faster she'll usually tell you.


Going down on a girl isn't about just, well, "going down on her". Try softly kissing around her knee and SLOWLY kissing closer and closer down the inside of her thigh. When you get to her vagina go over it but DON'T touch it. She'll be able to feel your breath over her vagina and will tease her. Then repeat the same thing you just did on the other side.

By the time you're done she'll be BEGGING you to go down on her. Doing subtle things like this will create a buildup of emotion and make a world of difference for her. There are other spots you can use, like the space inside her elbows. Anywhere that's ticklish is a good rule of thumb.

The important thing here is that they are gentle kisses. Don't be afraid to use your tongue too, but always in a slow and soft manner. Always focus on building up the situation over just simple technique.

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A female reader, prenezmoila United States +, writes (29 December 2008):

prenezmoila agony auntDon Juan De Marco said it best: A woman should be touched like silk. Barely touching the skin, floating above it like on a cushion of air. If you just dive right in and ravage a woman like you're at an all-you-can-eat buffet, well at least for me, that's not gonna work. The enthusiasm is definitely appreciated, but misguided.

A woman's center of pleasure is all about the buildup. Make the whole situation into a big production. And as it is with a woman going down on a man, enthusiasm is key. You should at least SEEM like you want to be doing what you're doing. Never complain about taste, smell, or wetness to a girl; this will make her feel insecure and she won't be able to get off.

Start out with gentle kisses, anywhere and everywhere. A secret spot many don't realize because limbs are generally ignored in oral sex is to kiss the insides of elbows. This is a tender fleshy area which can be rather arousing when incorporated into the rest of the routine.

Blowing hot air into a girls ear, somewhat like a sigh in gentleness, will drive her insane. She may pull away from this due to its arousing properties. Take your time to really explore every part of this girl.

Kiss her neck, breasts, stomach, sides, back, thighs, just everywhere that she seems comfortable with you going. Kissing her while using your tongue should be done as if taking a bite out of a peach; take it slow and use your lips entirely.

A good rule of thumb is anywhere she is ticklish, she can be aroused. If she still gets all giggly when you kiss her there, she isn't yet completely comfortable or into the act. In this situation, you need to take more time in areas she's already comfortable.

Once she's aroused, you can get to the business. Again, begin slowly. Explore here as well. Teeth are as they are to the penis; pretty much keep them out of the situation. The clitoris is something you should approach very carefully with your hands, because hit straight on, it is almost too sensitive. With the mouth and tongue however, this is very enjoyable. Something I personally enjoy is, with a man going to town on my clitoris, also stimulating my g-spot with his fingers.

The best way to do this is NOT make like a jackhammer and pound her poor vag, but curl your fingers upwards, towards her head, and find the rough, ridged spot. Stroke this spot, because that's the magic button. The combination of clitoral and g-spot stimulation will make her flip.

Once you find a position and technique that makes her moan and twitch, stick with it for a while. It's disappointing when a guy finds THAT spot, and moves away from it because he doesn't know that it's what really gets you off. You could be closing in on the big O, and he moves away from there. Let him know what you want.

Every girl is different, just continue to experiment and communicate with her. Many guys don't seem to know when a girl TRULY orgasms. The best way to know this is to have your fingers inside of her; you will feel her muscles spasming. If this doesn't happen, she's faking it. ;]

Good luck, all!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008):

Basically, just go down on her fast and lick quickly. Yadida?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008):

I think you're quite right. Relationship is everything. Sex can be, well, "just sex"- Or it can be a shared experience. I don't know about you, but I would opt for the latter every time.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007):

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007):

Alright man, I'll give you some advice, because nobody seems to be answering your question yet. (Also don't worry about someone calling you "not educated," they don't teach this in any school I know of)

To go down on a girl, you will be performing oral sex on her. But it's really not as simple as just licking a girl's genitals. Especially when performed on a female, it is a lengthy, involved process, which requires a great deal of sensitivity.

Performing oral sex on a woman (aka cunnilingus) can be a very exciting experience for the both of you. But you must both be very comfortable and trusting of each other, because she is exposing her most private, vulnerable parts to you. Oral sex is the most intimate of sexual experience, because it is your face, literally the physical personification of yourself, that will be close enough to see, smell, touch and taste her. It is not to be taken lightly!

My rule of thumb is this: if you're not comfortable talking about it with each other, you're not ready yet. Once you are ready for that level of a sexual relationship, you can try it, but you must ease into it very patiently. Just like intercourse, oral sex requires a LOT of foreplay. Just like driving a car, you need to warm up the engine before you take in on the freeway. So start with a fun evening out or any situation that you can become intimate, and ease into kissing, touching and making out to get her engine warmed. The clothes will start coming off when you're both ready.

Just like the name "going down" suggests, you'll be moving yourself down her body. But do it S L O W L Y . This is a process. Kiss her ears and neck and collarbone. Pay attention to these sort of sensitive areas on her body, they are very important. Keep your hands on her at all times. This doesn't necessarily mean groping her constantly, but she needs to feel your energy and body heat through your hands. Caress her body with your hands; this will help her warm up to your touch. Her sides under her underarms, her stomach, her lower back, her hips, her thighs... these are all very sensitive, very vulnerable areas on her body. Use a sensitive touch! Make sure to use your hands, lips and tongue on her breasts. And just remember, TAKE YOUR TIME! You don't want to rush this.

When you know that she's hot and ready, you can slowly move yourself toward her sex. But the slower that you move, the more she'll want you down there! Anticipation is the key here, this will really make her get wet and yearn for your touch. Kiss your way down her tummy, but not in a straight line from her breasts to her V... move in a meandering, nondescript path, so that it's unpredictable. Use light, slow kisses down her sides, and gently lick her stomach. Use your hands on her breasts and thighs. Remember, anticipation! Slowly get closer to her genitals... her areas surrounding her sex are extremely sensitive. Kiss, lick and nibble on her inner thighs, and pelvic area above her pubic hair. You should be moving painfully slow at this point. Get closer and closer to her lips and clit, but don't touch them! Get so close that she pants and moans, then move to another area. She'll be going wild by this point. But wait until she moves her sex into your mouth, and then you'll know that SHE IS READY.

Start with her outer lips. Get them nice and wet with your tongue and lips. Continue licking very slowly and sensually. Keep your hands on her body at all times, because these other stimulated areas like her legs and breasts don't want to be ignored. GIve her long licks and kisses on her lips, and slowly make them deeper into her. You will be able to taste her most intimate of juices. Once she is writhing, panting and dripping with wetness, you can begin to slowly kiss and lick her clit. This is just above her opening, where her lips meet her pubic hair. You can expose her clit by using your fingers to separate her outer lips, and pulling back from above. But make sure she is GOOD AND READY before you touch her clit, because it is THE MOST SENSITIVE PART.

You'll be well on your way at this point. Alternate between her clit and lips. As you go on you'll be able to lick deeper into her, and she'll be grinding into your face. Oh and fair warning: your face is going to get wet. You'll know when it's time to lick faster and more urgently, because she'll be moaning, screaming, and/or thrusting her hips. If you do it right, she is GOING TO LOVE IT!

Hopefully you'll be able to make her climax. This would involve her sex organs spasming, taking control of her whole body. Now, if it doesn't happen the first time or two, don't worry. You don't want to put out a bad vibe by worrying; it'll ruin it for everyone. Just remember to be patient, sensitive, and get lots of practice. Soon she'll be begging for it!

Hope this helps!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007):

When I saw this question, I was wondering about your age. I thougt this guy must be about 16 or maybe younger. Because it is a very normal question in your age. One starts to get to know his own body and is wondering about the other sex. And the most interessting thing is: How does sex works? What feelings are there? What do I have to do, once I have a girlfriend and would like to sleep with her? Will she like it? and so on.

I wasn't quite right about your age, but you seem to be still a teenager. And I would like to say this to you: You are still young. So wait for the right person. Don't just go into a pub and ask a girl for sex. That does not work! Well it maybe will, but it will not be nice and also, there is always the question about AIDS and other diseases. So don't just have sex with everyone who is willing - it is not as nice as it sounds. To experience real good sex, you must know a person quite well. You really should love this person and trust her!

What a women (not a cheap girl everyone can have sex with, when ever they like!) - but a "normal" women only is ready for sex when everything else is alright. Best thing about sex is, to know that her man loves her and adores her and cares for her and puts her first. She really can trust him and can share her innermost feeling with him. To have sex then is most fulfilling. It is not the technic about it, how you do it, but it is much more, what you think and feel for her. It is not just quick sex to enjoy, it is much more. It is becoming one and enjoy it together as a couple, as one!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007):

Birds do it, Bees do it, Even educated fleas do it....!

Did you never hear the storys of the birds and the bees? You seem to be not educated. So you need to educate yourselfe. Why not ask your parents or friends? Or why not go to a bookshop and buy a book about - you know: Birds and Bees- ?

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