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female
age
41-50,
*iadon
writes:I'm a woman and I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for nearly 7 years. We love each other and get on really well.The problem is lately I've been having some very straight feelings and getting curious about guys. Then I met this amazing guy who I really like and he likes me. He's in a long term open relationship with someone, and we've been getting on really well.I talked to my girlfriend about it and explained how I was feeling and she's been really amazing about it. I still want to stay in the relationship with her and will never stop loving her, but I feel like I've discovered a whole new side of myself that I need to explore. He also isn't expecting anything from me, only if I want to and she is comfortable with the idea. I've told my friends and they all say it's up to me. I still can't help feeling guilty about the idea, and don't even know what I want from him.I have no experience of open relationships or how they work, can anyone help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Hi there,
I've never been in an open relationship so I cant offer first hand advice.
But I guess the key thing here is how will you cope with the intimacy. I know people who do engage in this practice, and the men are able to just see it as sex a chance to experiment with a different partner and share the experience with their wife/girlfriend. Fine I say, whatever you are into.
But, without relying on gender stereotypes , I think woman have a greater emotional input in sex and you could be opening up a can of worms here. You might fall for the guy and your relationship with your girlfriend will suffer.
Maybe a swingers club would be an idea to start with, you don't have to be actively engaged , you could go along and just check it out , see if its your cup of tea.
Other than that, just stay in your comfort zone, and if you have too many doubts maybe it would be a good idea to keep it in the realms of fantasy land.
Good luck.
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