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writes:My friend recently confided in me that thought that she wasn't attractive, and that no guys like liked her. The real case is quite the opposite; i think she's a stunner! Her main complaint was that she had spots/acne that made her face look ugly. She made no complaint about her body; she's an athlete; there was clearly no need. She does have spots, but i've never noticed them! I think it's quite something for her to break her confident facade and confide this in me, and want to make sure that she feels better about herself; she's wonderful. I've never been any good with words, I don't know how to phrase it. my instant reaction was laughter; to me it was a preposterous suggestion, and aside from "you're not ugly, i think you're stunning", i kind of avoided an answer and changed the topic. how do i tell her that i think she's the most gorgeous girl in the world in a sincere way that helps her believe it? (i'm a girl too)Many thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): 'Hi I find you really attractive'
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): if i were you i'd bring up the conversation again. it's likely that she felt more insecure by you laughing/changing the subject. explain to her that you didn't laugh in a rude way, you laughed because you think it's ridiculous that she doesn't notice how truly beautiful she is. if you are uncomfortable talking about it like that, compliment her. tell her you think she looks good next time you see her, or tell her you've always thought of her as being attractive. if you feel too awkward doing this, then try more subtle suggestions in normal conversation. eventually she will get the hint.
and if she is worried about guys being interested in her, than how do you think she'd feel about you being attracted to her? it might ruin the friendship if you have feelings about her and she doesn't feel the same way. i would be careful how you approach this. female friends have told me in the past that i was attractive, but i never took it as they were interested. if she doesn't know you like her in that way than i don't think she'll think anything of it, but i would careful how you approach this.
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reader, karlgoo  +, writes (19 December 2008):
 It seems to me that you two may have feelings for each other. Look her in her beautiful eyes and tell her she is amazing. or You are so beautiful. Also if you guys text txt her and say good morning beautiful! my girlfriend melts every time I say stuff like this and ofcourse they know if you don't mean it, they got girl radar! lol hope this helps
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