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writes:I have a much higher sex drive than my bf and I struggle all the time with our level of intimacy. I know I should talk to him about it but I am worried it will make him unenthusiastic as he is making more of an effort, plus he has been a but overwhelmed by other stuff lately.How do you say thanks for making a greater effort but also say it's not enough and that I need even more without sounding like a jerk?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): If hes too tired to have sex, you could try taking care of yourself infront of him and see if it makes him excited. Works for my guy :)
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reader, pinkgoblin15  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 I agree with the first answer you should let him get over w/e stressing him out. Because personally my boyfriend he gets really tired if we have sex 2 times a day. But after ur boyfriends problems or w/e gets under control I would tell him about ur needs or try being more romantic with him that what i try lol. It occassionally works for me LOL
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reader, mitta  +, writes (25 May 2009):
If he is going through some tough times lately then maybe you should let him get past this before you put this extra strain on him.
Personally (as a pregnant woman) i know how hard it is when you cant keep up with your partners sexual appetite. You feel like abit of a failure and that they might go elsewhere for affection that you just cant give sometimes, so dont burden him too much with this.
When the time is right to bring it up just gently tell him how lusty you feel about him! That he get you hot and you cant get enough of him. He'll be flattered and hopefully will take the hint. If not just tell him you are a very sexual person and you love being close to him. tell him why its important to you.
But realistically you will never get his sex drive to match yours on a permanent basis. people are just different in this way. I dont know how your partner feels about you pleasuring yourself regularly but this is an option.
If you feel after talking to him that nothing is changing and perhaps pleasuring yourself is not good enough then you have to really cnsider how important sex is to your life and maybe make some difficult decisions based on this
Hope this helps.
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