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anonymous
writes:My ex boyfriend cheated on me with different girls all through our two and half years together. We broke up nearly three months ago, but I still can't seem to stop thinking about his cheating- and I desperately want to! Can anyone help me stop thinking about this?
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reader, Cupcake Debbie  +, writes (18 September 2008):
3 of my boyfriends cheated on me but 2 of them denied it to make me look crazy and feel like a fool. For the last 4 months of my last relationship I was convinced there was something going on with my boyfriend and his overweight and 17 years his junior salsa dancing partner. He had me thinkin I was crazy, telling me they were acquiantances who only text each other jokes etc. But I was like a dog with a bone and found out more and more info to confirm there was something going on. In the end I started to believe his lies and then only this week I checked his BA frequent flyer account to confirm that he had been on holiday to Denmark with her at the weekend just gone. The relief felt AMZING! I wasn't crazy! I was right all along and I was elated. I do not want him but I, like you cannot stop thinking of why he wanted her and not me. She is 5 years younger than me, a student, lives with her parents and at least 3 dress sizes bigger than me. I done EVERYTHING I could to please him. But I have researched his past, he had been married twice and lived with 3 other women before me. All these relationships ended in cheating. It's not you or I that was the problem. These men are just unable to stay faithful because of their own low self esteem and insecurities. We need to command respect and realise we are worth 100 of them. Please read "A Piece of Cake by Cupcake Brown" It will change your life and give you the strength you need to get through this. Whenever it comes into your mind, delete the thought and focus on something else. Keep erasing the thoughts until one day you don't need to.Be strong x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): i thought it was only women who cheated on men. i gave my first love all i am and all i have to offer. she had baggage i put up with it. she also liked to cheat. she left on my bday when i caught her with another man in my bed. i hate her with every inch of my body i wish there was some way to release this anger. i feel it affecting my job/ social life. i am becoming angry and withdrawn. i wish people would stay faithful and have some damn self respect. cheaters= no self respect
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): baby duck, i am going through the same prob. 3 years, lots of love, but lots of cheating.
Thanks for your advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): I am in the same situation. It's been 9 months and I think about it at least once every hour. I am going insane. I really am a normal person in other area's of my life. AND i've even accepted it, that it was meant to happen because he wasn't the right one for me...
If you ever find a tip let me know.
compassionate to your situation. peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): He is the ex so why are you whittling about it now. You had a lucky escape, get out there and enjoy life and forget all about this nit wit.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): That must've been horrible for you so I wouldn't expect for you to forget about it. Maybe you should call your friends and have a girly night. friends are there to cheer us up! hope this helps! good luck! x
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