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writes: I'm 16 and have been wondering how to stop being a minute man. Like you know when you're in the middle of sex and like 10 minutes goes by and you wanna bust. How do you stop that? Reply to this Question
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reader, mosaiwoman +, writes (29 March 2005):
First, you have to relax. Relaxation is the key to duration. I know that when you are having sex with someone, it is obvious that the only thing going through your head is how amazing it feels and how into the person you are and how good you know it is going to feel when you reach climax. A mixture of all those things going through your head can be very intense and hard to put aside. But, when you feel yourself getting to the point of wanting to release, try stopping just for a few seconds and letting it pass by squeezing your muscles (like when you have to pee and are trying to hold it)to keep from ejaculating, and slowing your breathing until the need to do it passes. It might also help to try to focus on anything but what is going on with the two of you (sex). Then you can start it up again and you will have a little while longer until it gets to that point again. Do this a couple of times, and you should be able to last longer that way. And, if you are worried about what your partner will think when you just stop in the middle of it, just tell the person that you are trying to hold out for them. I bet you anything (and I know from experience) that if you let them know that they are so irrestible and are making you feel so good that you want to 'get off', it will be a huge compliment to them and they will want you even more for it. So, basically, you win two ways because you get to prolong your sexual experience, and you make your partner feel like an amazing lover which will encourage them to get even more into it.I hope this helps.
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