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writes:In a long distance relationship, been together for quite a few years. He just started this new job in another state four months ago. I see him every other weekend. We have had our ups and down believe me. This is just another bump in the road which I am quite tired of. I know the answer already but would appreciate some support. He IM me and said he met a woman and went on a date. He asked could we have friends on the side? He said it's ok if I want to also.....! I thought if I did not love him maybe but since I do it would be impossible for me. He tried this a couple years ago. I told him look if he goes out and screws her we are finished and I signed off. I know to remain friends is not realistic especially with our history. How do I start to move on?? He has made me cry too many times in the past years...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys...your answers have been helpful:]
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reader, Love4Life +, writes (1 May 2009):
 The grieving process is different for everyone. It will hurt and I would wish a heart break on no one. I am glad though that you have the courage to move on. Its the first step and the hardest. But like you said you are a good person and deserve a man who wants you and only you. If he can't see that it's his loss and not yours. Just remember this is not your fault but his choice. Be strong and try to have a girls night out. Time sometimes seems to stand still after a break up. I find that if you try to stay busy but not disconnected from your friends it helps. Unfortunately the only thing that helps is time. I wish you the best and hope you find the strength you need to get through this. I hope I have been some help.
Miah
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Popcycle, he has been back and forth on marriage, makes promises cannot keep. I had left another time, he proposed and then took it away....As soon as he moved I kinda knew this was bound to happen....
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