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writes:For the majority of my teenage years I was obese so I never had much luck with women. Then during college I started working out, lost a ton of weight, now I look pretty good. I've only had one girlfriend. I was wondering if any of you guys had any advice on picking up women. I'm pretty charismatic once once I become comfortable with people. I wanted to know how do you just go up to a beautiful women you don't know in a restaurant or store and "pick them up", get their numbers, or whatever? That prospect seems really daunting to me. Any advice/tips? Reply to this Question
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reader, iateadonut  +, writes (19 July 2008):
I have to disagree with pinktopaz. Don't offer to buy a woman a drink until you've found that you like her. You don't want to send the wrong signals to the wrong woman.
Also, if you're at a bar to meet a woman, I don't think you should drink. Drinking at a bar is for when you and your buddies want to have a good time. If you want to meet someone, you need to have all your social graces intact, and drinking will only give you something to protect yourself with.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (19 July 2008):
I know you're asking guys this question, but as a female I can tell you that we girls can tell when a guy is secure, insecure, or full of himself. Desperate girls will go for anybody, and I'm sure you can feel those ones out. Just be confident but not cocky. Just let her know you're interested by looking at her (and do not stare in a weird way), just glance long enough to make eye contact for a few seconds then look away. Then just strike up a conversation. Just something easy going. Pickup lines are lame--do not use those. Just be yourself and if you're at a bar, just buy her a drink. That's a good way to let her know you're interested and she may even invite you over to where she's at and strike up a conversation. Don't be nervous. It's ok!
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reader, iateadonut +, writes (19 July 2008):
"Hi," is a good starting point.
"I saw you and I just wanted to talk to you," is a good second.
Feeling nervousness as excitement instead is good.
Not drinking is a good idea, if you're in a bar. Drinking will only give you something to cower away to.
Improving yourself to focus on what you'll need to be to start a good family is good, too.
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