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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I've only ever really liked 2 people and those people were good friends of mine before any feelings developed. But now there's someone else and I denied any feelings at all because I didn't know him so well as the other people. I've known him a long time but I don't see him very often and that's why I'd not really had any prominent feelings because I didn't see him often enough to get to know him. However I've seen him more recently. He's the son of a friend of my mums and because of things we've seen a lot more of them recently. I've been asked to go babysit his younger siblings with him next week by his mum which I've agreed to. His mum is always saying to me that 'if he wasn't already in a relationship she would love it if we were together'. She's not a pushy or invasive mother though and she adores his girlfriend which is why I was a bit shocked that I was asked instead of her. I think I really do like him even though I don't see him as often as I'd like and the fact that he has a girlfriend but I'm really starting to panic about going. I'm a nimbler and I tend to trip verbally when I'm nervous or embarrassed and I don't want to make a fool of myself. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2014): It wasn't a good idea that his mother made a comment like that. If he is seeing someone else, and doesn't feel the same about you as you feel about him, it will hurt your feelings.
I think you need to wait until he isn't seeing somebody else; before you start storing up feelings about him.
You tend to crush a lot. You're at the age that you'll daydream and do that a lot. That means you're not doing enough to keep yourself busy; or interacting with your other friends enough.
You're spending too much time inside your head; and daydreaming about boys.
It's okay, but you can go overboard.
Find some other things to do to keep your mind and body active or busy. Just crushing on everyone will not allow you to have any fun. Fixating on how boys feel about you.
You'll be awkward when it comes time to deal with boys in real-life. You have to put a limit on how much time you spend in an imaginary world.
Just relax and don't go to his house thinking he's there thinking about you. He has a girlfriend. His mind is on her, not you.
You're there to babysit. That's what you should be thinking about. You are being trusted to keep an eye on someone's kids. Get it together.
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