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writes:Hey, sorry have a long question for you!Ok so I was seeing this guy for a while and we were totally in love and everything was great! But I have friends, one in particular that interfere in everyones relationship, not just mine. Well anyway I started hearing that he was unhappy, and hating every minute of our relationship. When I was told this I just said he would end it if this was the case, but I was told he was waiting for me to change. ANYWAY, this sort of affected things with me and him, I would ask him if he was ok but he would always say he was, yet I always had the feeling that he wasnt. So eventually I ended it, still realy liking him. This was a few weeks ago. Anyway I was talking to him, and I decided to ask him out right if he hated our relationship and he said 'If I hated it I would have ended it' (Grr!) So yes you may think, simple! Get back together, but now one of my best friends likes him and I know he likes her too. He also knows that I like him and he has said he wants to get back with me, but we dont want to hurt the friend. The problem is that when I got into town with these people my friends are sending them off alone and setting them up, which hurts like hell. When they left I told him to go with the other girl, and he started getting off with me! Which, yeah I should have stopped but it was so nice. None of my friends will speak to me as I have 'got in the way' of their relationship, I have tried telling them that I have asked the guy to go out with her but he just doesnt want too. Hes even asked me to have a secret relationship which I refused because I dont want to hurt anyone, but I feel so bad, although in theory I have done nothing (friends dont know about the kiss.. and hopefully never will) I'm so confused, I love this guy so much and he's also acting like a great friend to me right now seeing as nobody else is talking. Hope do I make things right again? Sorry for the rant. xx
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reader, Skeez +, writes (20 March 2008):
 All I can see from this is that the girl who liked your boyfriend probably made up those rumours to you that he hated the relationship. There pretty much evil little girls who just want to ruin your life. Forget about them. Dont feel sorry for them, why the hell should you?
Your boyfriend chose you and he even chose you afterwards and didnt go off with that girl...so what does that say? He loves you. Just tell them/her to get over the fact that he doesnt like her in that way and that you two belong together and see if you should go back out with each other. He obviously didnt want to leave the relationship. Just ignore those horrible girls and find some new friends. Become friends with your guys lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): When youre in a group its impossible to please everyone. If no ones talking to you then they aren't really friends. Just friends if you do what they say. You said originally that when you first was going out with this guy, you heard from your so called friends he was hating going out with you. This was a lie made up by one or more of your so called friends. Try looking around for someone else your friends aren't speaking too, there you might find a true friend.
Good luck
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