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writes: I met this guy online a few months ago and we have chatted on and off since (most nights in fact), we have been out a few times from a few drinks at a bar to shopping together also went over one night to watch dvds and also we went to the cinema this week to see late showing. He apparently finds it hard to make the first move (he has a profile online that Ive seen since i met him) I want to make the first move but whenever i go to i clam up, when we were in the cinema for example i was fine until we sat down then i was rigid and tense for fear of putting my hand out and it being rejected or something i really dont know why to be honest, then at the end of the evening i got nervous when we went to say goodbye, i dont want him to think im not interested but i think that my actions may make him think that how can i let him know i like him without the pressure and without making him feel pressured, he is 3 years younger than me. I really like him and he seems quite coy, certainly a lot of big smiles that turn into laughs. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2006): So, its not that you are scared, its that you don't know for a fact that you like this person.
If you are comfortable around the special person, it wont be hard for you to make the move.
If this guy likes you- he will wait for you until you're ready. or he'll make the move.
If he ends up leaving- hes a fricking idiot. And he wasnt right for you anyway.
Just wait it out sweetie..
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Just start gently, like touching him on the arm when you tell him something, and slowly progress, put a hand on his shoulder when you are laughing. Touch his hair - men usually love that, I like to quickly scrunch my fingers at the back of his head as I pass behind his chair. Just little, unexpected things like that, will put him at ease whilst giving out the signal that you have a connection..You should find that it is reciprocated, and when the moment arrives - go for it!!! It will feel like the most natural thing in the world, (it is!) and as long as you don't rush it, will grow naturally. So take it slow, and good luck!
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